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Arash: The guys who are getting the supremely hot chicks using game, the way it’s taught, have put in their time. Personally, me, I’ve been picked out of two restaurants in San José because I was miscalibrated. Manager came up, “Sir. You’re going to have to leave.” And it’s fucked up. It’s an uncomfortable, uncomfortable experience. That’s the least of it man. I’ve got story after story of shit I’ve done. Boyfriends threatening me. Husbands threaten to kill me. It’s, like, fucked up.

Arash: But now I’m at a point where it’s rare to get any reaction like that. So the advice is to recognize what you’re getting into, but it’s worth it. If it’s worth it for you to be able to get super-hot chicks and handle this part of your life once and for all. Once and for all, where you just know you have some skill. Then do it. For more advanced Pick Up Artists, I tell you this, straight up, if you have not studied and understood the Mystery Method, you’re missing out. And I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be. I guarantee you’re not as good as you could be, okay? You gotta study it and understand it, even if you’re good.

Arash: I have Pick Up Artist here who are already good. And now they’re all going back and their game is tremendously improving. Because it’s scientific method. It has a structure where you can always find out where you are if you’re fucking up. It’s incredible. That’s for the people that have been studying game and maybe haven’t had the experience of the Mystery Method done correctly. A lot of people talk about it. They can’t demonstrate it, right? Find a good teacher. And thirdly, for people who have and they’re still struggling, you need to find a good teacher. You got to find a good teacher. How many good teachers do I know? I know four. You and Mystery and you know Matador. ‘Kay? The other two? Don’t worry about it. [LAUGH]

Bolo: [LAUGH]

Arash: Legit, legit teachers. You would never in the field of martial arts, if your life is on the line, if someone’s gonna knock you out or break your limb or choke you out, you’re not going to go to some shmoe who hasn’t demonstrated his skills before. Doesn’t matter how many certificates he has. No matter what kind of website he has. You need to find a legit teacher who can teach and has already demonstrated who he is.

Arash: That’s why it’s important for me to have a family tree. Mystery taught Matador. Matador, Arash. Good. We can trace that shit. I didn’t come out of nowhere, right? And if you call him up or if you see Matador, you say, “What do you think of Arash’s game?” He’ll tell you. It’s the way it is. That’s life, right? So for everybody else who’s been studying, maybe stuck somewhere, find a real teacher who can help you. Period. Simple. Done.

Bolo: Oh, very… Yeah dude. Very nice. Like, you seem to live a really kick ass life. You’re an accomplished martial artist. You met all these famous guys. You met Mystery. You met Matador.

Arash: Ross Jefferies.

Bolo: You met Ross Jefferies before. Manu. I looked up his stuff on youtube. He was on the A-Team!

Arash: Yeah. Manu was incred-. Man. Yeah, I’ll talk all day about Manu. But yes, he was my original teacher. Everything I can do is because of him as a base I have. Manu Tupou.

Bolo: Like, I’m curious. How did you build up this lifestyle. How did you meet all these people?

Arash: That I still… Hey. Your voice, by the way, is really faded. So if you could fix it ‘cause I’m trying to desperately hear you, right now.

Bolo: Can you hear me?

Arash: That’s better.

Bolo: Alright. I’ll just have to hold up my mike up like this. Alright, so yeah. How did you meet all these guys?

Arash: I really can’t answer that with a fact because I thought about that question all my life. I don’t know. I don’t know. I do know when I met them , I instinctively knew how to act. And they saw something in me that they appreciated. And I dedicated, like, really dedicated myself to these teachers. I really did.

Arash: Right now I’m doing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu with them, one of the best Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu masters in the world. And I’ve dedicated my whole life to the guy, you know? For the last 10 years I’ve been studying with him. September is 10 years. That’s, I love that. I love being a good student. You know? So, I don’t know how I met them. I really don’t know. If you try to work out the math of it, it’s impossible. So, I can’t figure out how I met them, but after I did I knew what to do.

Bolo: Like, I’m sure a lot of these people, like, they have students all on them. Wanting to be, you know, their students personally. Like, what do you think separate you from the other guys?

Arash: You gotta ask them that question. I can only guess. You know what I mean? I know my qualities, that if I was, you know, I am a teacher. As a teacher, I would see this sincere determination, desire and passion of this person to really learn and give proper acknowledgement to that teacher. That’s very important. That’s why I keep dropping Matador’s name or Mystery’s name because, and even Manu who’s passed away 7 years ago. That’s important to me.

Arash: People have lost that tradition. You have to give respect to the people who came before you. There’s people who have said to me,” Man, your game is so great.” You know, it’s better than so-and-so. I say, “Listen. I don’t even compare myself to Matador. I don’t even compare myself to Mystery. I would be foolish. I don’t even… Who cares? Who cares?” Without them, there would be no me. So let’s just get that straight. Right? But it’s this Western mentality of, like, step over everybody. Get to the top and blah blah blah. And be the best. Shut the fuck up. You know? So, I don’t know. Maybe that’s what they saw. I don’t know. You would have to ask them. I think I would see this in myself. A guy who knows that he’s going to do whatever it takes to be the best.

Bolo: Very nice. Alright. I looked up some of your videos on YouTube, you know? And are you, like, a club promoter?

Arash: No, I’m not. I’m not. I actually use the game to create a lifestyle of a rock star. I want to be on the stage. I want to have a mike. I want to have girls around me. I want to perform. But I don’t have a voice. Besides what you hear. I can’t sing worth shit. So , it’s my secret how I did it. But I used game to position myself where I’m at now. I do shows. I get hired as an artist to go into a club and put on a show. A promoter is someone who promotes people to go to the club and get paids off of it. I get hired by the club as an outside. I go in. I do a show and I leave. That’s what I…

Bolo: Okay. Can you drop any hints if one of the guys wants to do something similar?

Arash: Absolutely. Hints are this. First of all, I have skills. You know? I’m on stage. I’m capable because of Manu. I’m a theater, master of theater. I know what I’m doing. And so you have to have something, right? So I can produce. I can produce a show. I can direct and produce shit. So that’s what I have. But the big hint in regards to game is if you have beautiful women around you, enough of them, it opens many, many doors for you. And I knew that. So I knew that having that, I could open doors. And I did.

Bolo: Okay. So, like, social circle.

Arash: You better believe it man. You wouldn’t believe my life. You should add me on Facebook. You literally… I tell you. I bet you there’s nobody else, nobody else in the world that we know that has a Facebook like me unless it’s Hugh Hefner. There’s nobody surrounded… Because even the celebrities bro, they get chicks, but they don’t have them in their social circle the way I have them. You gotta believe… We’ll you’ll see it for yourself.

Bolo: Okay. I saw your Facebook. You do… I saw, like, I think your Picasa web photos. Yeah, I can attest to what you’re saying.

Arash: That’s my life. That’s what I do.

Bolo: Like, how did you build up your social circle? How do you get that many females around you?

Arash: By having very tight, meticulous game. Very tight game. That’s it. Because…

Bolo: It all just goes back to game.

Arash: If you know the structure of the Mystery Method , there’s comfort in the middle, C2 is deep comfort and connection. If you have a comfort and connection with a beau-… And I just did it with the 9s and 10s. Now, just like that, every relationship will end eventually. You gotta know how to end it. So girls will come and go. But the core group keeps getting stronger and stronger.

Arash: My vision is to one day have, be the guy who establishes what is sexy in our current culture because of the way I look and who I am, I’m a rebel. You see how I look. And my girls are the new playmates. They’re the new, you know what I mean, the new Playboy Playmates. They’re the IMC Sinful Angels. That’s who we are. And you’ll see this. ‘Cause it is in our area, we’re known as the hottest girls in the Bay Area our under Arash. So now all we gotta do is get the word out to bigger than Bay Area. And it’s happening already. You know?

Bolo: Very nice. Like, I’m curious though. What do you think is your biggest sticking point right now?

Arash: Hmm… Good question. At the moment, I haven’t… My confidence has not caught up to my game. If that makes any sense. My confidence is lower than my ability to do game. So I’m starting to see that at some point they’re reacting to my game, which is really tight. But I start to fuck it up because my confidence is not there yet. And that incongruency has been killing me. And now I’m getting it.

Arash: That’s what I’m currently working on right now, is to see myself as they see me. Because I still have in me that little boy who was fucked up, with a lot more confidence now, but I see it come out at times. Somewhere in that structure that shit comes out. And now I’ve been in the progress… It’s funny you ask. For the last 3 days, I’ve seen it. To just nuke it out. It’s, like, it’s incongruent. That’s it. And you may never see. My lifestyle and what I can do, but that’s why I’m stuck, what’s what I need to fix right now.

Bolo: Okay. Well, what about, like, the rest of your life. What other goals do you have? I mean, you seem to be doing pretty damn well already.

Arash: You know who Lil Wayne is?

Bolo: Yeah.

Arash: My goal is to achieve material and fame, success higher than him. He’s the one, his picture is in the background for that purpose. It’s in the back. Point to him. There.

Bolo: Yeah. I see him.

Arash: Yeah. To spread the teachings of my teachers and help, honestly, because that seems to be the one activity that fulfills me at the end of the night, more than anything else is when I help people. And it’s very selfish. And it’s not all fucking vain and shit, “Oh. He wants to help people.” I only want to do it ‘cause it actually makes me feel better.

Arash: The final analysis; that’s what it is. And to really just open my eyes and see… There’s a lot of goals. I’ve very goal orientated and shit. But in the big picture, Lil Wayne status and higher. Than use that and what I know to help as many people as I can. And on a personal level, just continue evolving as an individual and see, see what it is man. I mean, like, you know, it’s quiet a journey – living. It’s a trip. You know, it’s a trip. So I enjoy thinking about life and philosophizing about it and seeing what it’s all about.

Bolo: Okay. Yeah. Sounds good to me dude. Like, what’s your day to day life like nowadays?

Arash: I have a very strict schedule, I’ll tell you. I get up a 9AM every single day. I make myself some kind of smoothie juice for breakfast. I go and I do Jiu-Jitsu from 11. I finish at 2. I get home. I showered. This is every day. I shower. Hang out with my girlfriend till around 4. Some days at 3:30 or 4, I come to this office, what you’re seeing, and I teach game on Skype or meet with people. At 5 I’m in my martial arts academy teaching till 8:30. At 8:30, I head back to this office. Teach. Lecture. Or hangout with a friend. This goes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Friday is very similar to that except at the end of the night I hang out with my girlfriend. Saturday I teach in the morning. I have an open schedule in the middle of the day, where I hang out with a friend or go out gaming, whatever. And then I hang out with the girlfriend. Sunday I hang out with the girlfriend, having a meeting. Sunday night, hang out with a friend. Literally every single week is like that. And it’s been like that for years now.

Bolo: What about your products? Can you tell us, like, just what you have? Like, you got boot camps? What else do you have?

Arash: If a person if interested in learning from me, it’s really easy. They go to SeductiveInstinct.com. Can they email us there? They just shoot an email and they say what they want to learn, okay? Then somebody. 48 hours is my turn around time for everything man. If you haven’t heard in 48 hours from us, we didn’t get it. Straight up. Two days is long enough to go to another country and come back, you know? So, they say what they want. Based on that, we’ll email them. And say, “Look. Here are the options dude.”

Arash: You know, and money is an issue for a lot of people. I don’t know from where you are, but in this economy in the United States it is. And I don’t give a shit about that too much. It has to be fair. It has to be something where, you know, I feel like it’s worth the time. You know, I gave you my schedule. Somewhere in there I fit somebody. That’s it. Straight up. That’s my schedule.

Arash: So there’s an infinite number of products because it’s tailored to the person. Now, on the other hand, there’s, we just released that Alpha Male series. It’s a 6 DVD set. 5, 6 DVD set. I don’t remember. And that’s really cool because that has so much, so much information, up and down the scale, on alpha males. And there’s language patterns, and there’s everything. Okay? So that’s for somebody who just wants to check it out. And there’s also, you know, again, webinars. We have this thing called Secret Diaries, where I interview some of these 9s and 10s. And you can see me talking to them and there’s a lot to learn. So those are some of the actual products that are out.

Arash: But what I like my business to be is someone contacts us, we develop a personal relationship, find out what they’re all about. Based on that, we give them a few options. The one that fits their budget, they take it. I change their life. They go out and they tell the world how incredible I am. And then Lil Wayne can be my little bitch afterwards.

Bolo: [LAUGH] Alright dude. Sounds good. Anything else you want to say to the audience from here?

Arash: Yeah man. First of all, thank you for doing this. You get the word out. You know what I mean? We all have our jobs. So now because of you more people are going to have an opportunity to learn from me and the stuff that I know. To the audience, any final messages, bottom line, and it’s going to sound weird and cheesy, but it is what it is. Let’s just make it a better place for everybody. You know what I mean? Somehow, someway. Whatever your skills are. Whether you’re, you know. Whether you work as a doctor. Whatever the fuck you do. You sweep the streets. You know, let’s wake up and go to bed and try to make it a little bit better for everybody. You know what I mean? Then it’s worth it. Teacher Manu would always say, “Be the best and fuck the rest.” So that’s the message. Be the best and fuck the rest.

Bolo: Alright. Thank you Arash and it was good talking to you.

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Arash being interviewed by Bolo from Latinstylez.com in Taiwan

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Bolo: Alright guys. This is Bolo from Latinstylez.com with my friend Arash, who’s currently… Uh, where you at?

Arash: I’m in San José, California baby!

Bolo: He’s in San Josey. [LAUGHS] Arash is also known as Achilles from The Game. And he’s an up and coming PUA. And it’s a privilege to talk to you Arash.

Arash: Thank you for having me. And uh, I’m glad to be alive. Let’s go.

Bolo: Alright, cool. Alright, first question. Most people don’t know that much about you. You’re coming up. And I’m just curious. Like, how did you get into The Game? How did you get into Pick Up?

Arash: It’s a long story. Let’s make it short. Well, I grew up and when I was six years old I had to leave my country which was Iran. And between the age of 6 and 11, I lived in Iran. I live in Turkey, in Syria, in Kuwait, in London, and Nebraska, and California. In about 5 years I moved that much. And uh, naturally, when I got to the United States, I wanted, you know, I started liking girls. And I wanted to have beautiful girls around me. And I liked the white, pretty cheerleader type. But they weren’t going to talk to me because I was a complete, just culture shock. You know what I mean? Like, everything was wrong about me at the time.

Arash: So anyways, I got into the martial arts at a very young age. And I was interested in two things. One – how to defend myself. Two – how to get chicks. Which is survival and replication value, if you know anything about it now, right? So I spent all my life, every moment I could get my hands on, studying something about the mind, whether it was NLP, hypnosis, Dianetics. Anything you could think about. And martial arts. Because, one, I was getting beat up in school. So I had to learn how to defend myself. And two, I wanted the girls and nobody wanted to talk to me. Not the girls, not the boys.

Arash: Until about two and a half years ago, I came across Mystery. It’s a really cool story how that happened. And, whatever, we got to talking and I became his student. And Matador, if you know who he is, James Matador, ended up becoming my personal mentor. And now I am a mother fucking beast. Beep. You know, without [INAUDIBLE], but we do cuss in California, San Jose.

Bolo: Alright. That’s fine. You can cuss as much as you want here.

Arash: Okay.

Bolo: Alright. So how long have you been doing Pick Up for? Like 2, 3 years or something.

Arash: About 2 and a half. Two years and four months, learning game. But prior to that, everything I studied, I tried to apply to picking up girls. I just didn’t have a structure or anything. So I was successful getting chicks but I didn’t know there was a group of Pick Up Artist. A community that was working at it. I understood that there was such a thing called Game. Being taught at two years and three months ago.

Bolo: Interesting. So you use to be a dork and everything and you didn’t get any chicks. What’s your life like right now?

Arash: [LAUGHS] Well, I did get chicks because at some point I achieved high status in the martial arts. And I was really bold and I, you know, I was the shit. So I would get girls, but it was so direct. And it was, again, lucky. But I would go after the hottest chicks. So I got girls after a certain point. When I was around, I think, 18 was when I got my really hot girlfriend and then it just moved forward.

Arash: I’m 34 right now. But the difference is, the life that I live now… I’ll be honest with you, if I explained it to you, it would be out of reality and it wouldn’t fit. So if you could take the book The Game and go to the end and watch Neil’s life and what happens to it, I could tell you that’s very real to me. You know, when I first met Matador, after the first night he said to me, “Arash, you could live like a rock star. You could have so many women in your life that you won’t have time for them. And you wouldn’t know what to do. And that is what I have right now in my life. And I have a current, I have a girlfriend also.

Bolo: Really nice dude. And it only took you two and a half years to get there?

Arash: Yeah. It’s still a journey. I’m still evolving man. My game is still tightening up and I don’t think it’ll ever end. Just like martial arts. But it’s pretty high level. It really is. You ask some of the people who have seen me do stuff or talk to people who I have taught, who have been taught by the best in the world, and they’ll tell you I’m better than everybody right now. And I know that to be true.

Bolo: Very nice. I’m curious, like, about your style. Like, do you have a dating philosophy? You know, like in the community, there’s all these different styles. Direct, indirect. You follow Mystery Method or what?

Arash: Mystery’s my original teacher. And his method is the base for everything. I believe who is very successful at Pick Up has that as a base. So, my style is my style now. But it has Mystery Method as a base, for sure. Does that answer your question?

Bolo: Yeah. Yeah, it does. Okay. That’s cool. Now, I’m curious, how did you become good enough at dating to become an authority at it?

Arash: An authority is somebody who can do the job. That’s an authority to me. You know what I mean? It’s not someone who has a certificate. It’s not someone who other people think knows. It’s the person who can do the job. I can do the job. I’m surrounded by 9s and 10s. Now, in the Bay area, people thought they knew what 9s and 10s were until I got into the Game. Now, the guys, the guys that are the legit Pick Up Artists and quote, are some saying, you hear them, they meet around, they say, “No, we don’t get girls like Arash does. Those are 9s and 10s.” So I’m an authority in quotes, first, because people listen. But more importantly because I can get the job done. I can take someone and teach them from zero to be able to get hot chicks. And I can demonstrate it in my life. I live a life of Pick Up. You know?

Bolo: Very nice. Like, when you first started, I mean, were you just going out every single day or…

Arash: No. Well, let me explain something else on that. I just popped in my mind. I think the moment that it became really clear to me that I was okay to teach was when I was out with Matador and he introduced me to Laurence Fishburne. I think he was the black actor from The Matrix.

Bolo: Yeah. Yeah. Ne-, Morpheus. Yeah.

Arash: That’s right. And he introduced me. He said, “This is my former student, Arash.” And he goes, “The reason I say former student is because he is a master of Pick Up.” And that was a big moment for me. And there was many conversations after that. So being acknowledged by him, bona fide like that, I was like, “Okay.” You know? And I know I can really change people’s lives. ‘Cause this shit is powerful dude. You know what I mean? It’s fucking powerful. You can change a person’s life. Completely turn it around. No matter what is going on in their live; men are struggling with women. And I’ve seen it.

Bolo: That’s interesting.

Arash: I missed the other question you said.

Bolo: Yeah. Just… What was it? How did you get good enough to become a dating authority? How did you start out? Were you just going out a whole lot or…?

Arash: I actually barely went to the clubs. On this, I was in LA visiting and I would go with Matador. But other than that, here, my game was created in a way where when I would go shopping I would game everybody there. I would go eat, I would game all the waitresses. Then I would go and, let’s say I’m working out, I would game everybody there. Wherever I was I would game. So, then I created this thing where, for me, game and life are the same. It’s a lifestyle. For me it’s not like, “Oh, now I’m gonna go to the club and game.” So you said, did I go out every night and game? I didn’t go out, but I gamed almost every moment when I was around a chick. Almost every moment. You know? It was unbelievable. So I got very good at it. And my hired gun game is pretty ridiculous. What I can…

Bolo: Oh. Really nice. Like, do you teach boot camps or what exactly, what type of coaching do you do?

Arash: Oh yeah. We do boot camps. We do Skype coaching. We do webinars. I have a boot camp coming up this weekend. We do one on ones. Man, you name. I’m just interested in creating the next generation of incredible Pick Up Artists. I benefit from that. It’s important to me.

Bolo: Yeah. You’ve had a lot of students at this point, right?

Arash: A lot, you know, is a relative term. No, I don’t think so. I’ve had students and they’ve been very successful. But I was very picky and I still am. I don’t teach everybody. There’s a lot of people that want to learn, but they don’t want to learn. You know what I mean? So I teach people, we go put them in the interview. We find out what they’re all about. If they have a passion for this. If they really want to do this. If they do, I meet with them. And I accept them as students and I change their life. And if again, if they’re not a good student while I’m teaching them, I actually will get rid of them. And I did that to four people.

Bolo: You’re kidding.

Arash: No, I can because my name is on it. It’s a brand. You know? I’m a brand name. I’ve done martial arts long enough. I have a very successful martial arts business. And this is now my business in Pick Up. And I want to have a brand. I want it to be, if you were trained by Arash, if you were trained by Achilles, if you’re from SeductiveInstinct.com, you are good. Or you’re on your way to being very good. I don’t want people to say, “I studied with him, but I don’t get any chicks.” No, no, no. Not me. So I’m very selective. The ones that don’t make it, I give them a few chances. You know, if they’re not doing their reading, if they’re not doing their practice, if they’re not showing up, they need to go somewhere else. I don’t care how much they pay. It’s just not the way that I do things.

Bolo: Okay. Like, during the interview process, what are you looking for, like, in a prospective student?

Arash: A few things. One is that they really have to want to make a change. They’re not just talking. You know what I mean? They have to have a passion for doing it. They have to be willing to go through rough times. It’s not roses man. Are you kidding me? It was difficult getting good. Very difficult. Thank God it was difficult because now if it wasn’t, everybody else would be running around getting chicks. I put in my time and my dues. So those are the basics. More than that. It’s a vibe, you know? Lucky, he does the interviews and I trust his judgment. So he does the interview and you’d ask him what he specifically goes for. What I look for in a student are those things. Passion. A person who’s willing to go through the ups and downs. And a person who really wants to make a change in their life. Then I’ll make it happen.

Bolo: Sounds good dude. Now, what about the guys who don’t make it. The four guys you had to kick out? Like, what common traits do they have?

Arash: Well, they can go fuck themselves as far as I’m concerned.

Bolo: [LAUGHS]

Arash: You know what I mean? Probably looking at the pictures of my girls online. But anyways, they, the traits they have is they don’t want to get better man. They don’t do it. You know, you have to take the next step. That’s it. You know? So if they don’t do their reading, if they don’t show up, if they don’t look like they really want to get better, they just want to sit around and talk about it. No dude. This is an action based activity. There’s theory and there’s application. You gotta put them together.

Arash: There’s people that can sit there and talk all theory all the time. But they can’t demonstrate shit. On the other hand, there’s some guys that get chicks, but they don’t know any theory. So when they teach, there’s a guy, a joke, you know, he was like, you know, I did a seminar, and then he did one right after me and he was like, “Well, just go out there and be yourself. And just be ballsy and be confident.” I’m like, “Dude, you’re a joke. Get the fuck outta here.” You know what I mean?

Bolo: Yeah.

Arash: How are you going to teach someone that? That’s not game. That’s ridiculous. You’re the good looking guy. So he gets to do that. I wasn’t a good looking guy. I’m an interesting looking guy, I know. But I’m not a good looking guy.

Bolo: Yeah dude. I know what you’re saying. It’s a little too, too much esoteric, you know, advice. Like, “Oh, be yourself. Grab your balls and just go.” You know?

Arash: Yeah. Find out who you really are. It’s like, “Yo man. If I knew the answer I’d be Buddha right now.” You know what I mean?

Bolo: Yeah. [LAUGHS] Yeah dude.

Arash: Don’t fucking go there. Give me some specific technique, like look over your shoulder, lean away, smile, tell them you gotta take off in a minute, and ask a neutral question. Those are techniques any person can apply. And that technique will improve their chances just by doing that, talking to a chick. And that was directly from the Mystery Method. An open.

Bolo: Yeah. Now, what do you think the greatest mistake guys make with women is? Just like in sarging in general.

Arash: They show too much interest too fast.

Bolo: And what can they do to correct that?

Arash: Well, keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. Keep doing it. Keep losing the chick. And then some point get sick of your sickness and say, “Fuck! What am I supposed to do?” At that moment, stop showing her so much interest. So she has to earn, she has to earn it from you. Honestly, that’s the very first thing I ever learned in game when I started studying it. That was the first thing. I applied it that night and it completely changed my experience with women. She has to earn you. You know?

Arash: They demonstrate interest when they walk up. Already opening a girl you’re showing interest. So as quickly as you can you gotta calibrate and take that away as soon as possible. So she knows that okay, well, you were playing on level ground with her. Or even you gotta be higher really. You gotta have more value. So I think the biggest mistake is they show interest too quickly. The way they can correct is just recognize that’s not the way to get the girl man. It’s just not. I mean, where do you get that from? It’s not proven. It’s lucky. I don’t want to be, I don’t want to get lucky when I get chicks. I want to have skill. You know what I mean?

Bolo: Yeah.

Arash: It’s like do you want to be lucky if the parachute opened or do you want to know you fucking put that shit together. You know what I mean? And you put the parachute together. You check everything. And then you jump. Even then, some people’s chutes don’t open. Just like Pick Up. You could be a master Pick Up Artist. Sometimes you ain’t gonna get the chick dude. You gonna fuck up. Big deal. But you do all the pieces right and your chances are greatly improved. And you jump, still with adrenaline, but trusting your chute which is the game. Damn, that was…

Bolo: Okay. [LAUGHS] Yeah, I’ve jumped out of a couple airplanes before and it helps to be prepared.

Arash: Oh. Have you really jumped out?

Bolo: Yeah. I’ve done AFF and Tandem. You do AFF by yourself , you go train for like 10 hours. Like, I had to go at 6 in the morning. Didn’t jump until like 6 in the afternoon.

Arash: Wow.

Bolo: It’s a fun time dude. You should give it a shot.

Arash: I will never jump out of a plane unless it’s burning. Otherwise, I’m good. I’ll just take it from one place to the other.

Bolo: Well, any tips or techniques you can give the guys? Like, any newbies listening here. Or any, like, you know, just any, anything that your particularly like to do.

Arash: Yes. Yes, I have so many fucking hints and techniques and shit. So let me just go over a few basic ones. This goes, talk about for everybody, inner game is so important man. Inner… That’s what I had. That’s what… You asked me what made me so good. I had monster inner game. Monstrous. Because of martial arts and the study of the mind that I had all my mind been doing.

Arash: So ,anyways, let’s get into this. Just like anything worth achieving, whether it’s a black belt in a legit martial arts or its surgeon, become a surgeon or anything legit, you have to put in your time. And you gotta be willing to do what it takes and go through the hard times. So anybody picking up Pick Up for the first time should understand, you know, you are going to get the chick one day. You’re totally going to get the chick one day, but you better be willing to go through some shit to get there. Like, really go through it. You gotta put yourself out there, so if you’re not willing have both sides of the coin, my teacher would say, Manu, that was his name, then you can’t have one or the other. You can’t just study game and go get all the hot chicks.

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This talk took place at Hooters in SF in front of over twenty guys.

Arash spent over two hours breaking down game for the guys and having them understand the ways a master pickup artist creates attraction, deals with communication, and what he does to understand the mind of the women he meets almost daily.

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Summary:

-In the third part of this three part series Arash talks about not letting failure bring you down.

-Why looks are not as important for women and why attraction is a value based system.

-Get an understanding how to manage relationships with multiple women.

-How we rationalize having certain feelings for someone we normally might not be into.

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Podcast Episode #13: Arash at Hooters speaking knowledge – Pt. 3 is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

This talk took place at Hooters in SF in front of over twenty guys.

Arash spent over two hours breaking down game for the guys and having them understand the ways a master pickup artist creates attraction, deals with communication, and what he does to understand the mind of the women he meets almost daily.

Make sure you check out the YouTube Channel – Seductive Instinct

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Seductive Instinct Episode 12 – Arash at Hooters speaking knowledge – Pt. 2

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-In the second part of this three part series Arash talks about some places to pickup women.

-Reasons to exchange numbers with a target to not trigger any resistance.

-The inner game (mentality) to have.

-The importance of being relaxed and not taking things personal.

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Podcast Episode #12: Arash at Hooters speaking knowledge – Pt. 2 is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

This talk took place at Hooters in SF in front of over twenty guys.

Arash spent over two hours breaking down game for the guys and having them understand the ways a master pickup artist creates attraction, deals with communication, and what he does to understand the mind of the women he meets almost daily.

This was a free talk he did out of passion for the game.

Make sure you check out the YouTube Channel – Seductive Instinct

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Seductive Instinct Episode 11 – Arash at Hooters speaking knowledge – Pt. 1

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-In this first part of a three part series Arash talks about a major mistake guys make when first meeting women.

-The difference in what Attraction means for men and for women.

-How to game a hired gun. (The women hired at restaurants or clubs for their beauty.)

-There’s a ton more of powerful techniques and views to change your way of being.

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Do you remember of an instance when you were out hanging out with a friend or a hot girl and you stopped talking because you didn’t know what to say? Learning the technique that Arash describes in this video you too can always have something to always say. This is a very simple technique that you can master today and it will work wonders for you when you are out and about or meeting a hot girl.

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Podcast Episode #9: How to NEVER run out of things to say.

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- The reason why we freeze up.

- Communicate with Value.

- The technique that will help you have something to always say.

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Podcast Episode #9: How to NEVER run out of things to say is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

You approached the girl and created attraction but dont know what to do next? First, make sure you do have real attraction before you try to take her into a place that should be reserved for a woman of really high value. Most men try to rush through the process and end up being frustrated and alone. Find out how to create real attraction and then what to do after it has happened.

Play the game smart.

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- Make sure you have REAL attraction.

- What if she is not completely attracted?

- Is she qualified to be part of your world?

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Podcast Episode #8: You created attraction… Now what? is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

Females are genetically designed to be attracted to males that have different types of strength so they feel secure and protected. Learn the mistakes most men make when it comes to displaying strength and how society frowns upon showing strength. Be a Lion and watch her attraction grow.

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- Learn the mistake guys make when it comes to showing strength.

-Strength for a female is always attractive but being nice can be a turn off.

- Learn to keep your value without compromising your strength.

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Podcast Episode #7: She is attracted by strength is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

Ever wonder why a Lion is more respected than a squirrel? It has to do with potential energy and for a female energy is very important. She is designed to feel the strength of a man and she craves it. She wants a MAN.

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Seductive Instinct Episode 6 – She wants & needs a MAN

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- Just like we crave her feminine energy she too craves our Masculine energy.

- What is potential Energy?

- Too much energy can be a turn off

- Show value on Facebook

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Podcast Episode #6: She wants & needs a MAN is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

The power of the mind is amazing. Ever wonder how you can get her thinking the thoughts you want and have her think it was her own thought? You must check this clip out to find out how its done.

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Podcast Episode #5: Penetrate her… Mind.

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- Do you want to get into her mind?

- Then you must check out the steps to make it happen.

- Go beyond just lines and routines, influence her mind.

-This is great for beginners and experts.

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Podcast Episode #5: Penetrate her… Mind is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

There has to be a reason why you like her and it better not be just her looks or else you are going to have a hard time getting her. Understand The Art of The Compliment.

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Podcast Episode #4: Qualify her (Does she measure up?)

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- If you qualify her,(tell her that you like for any reason), before she has showed you interest then you become just another notch on her belt.

- Learn the art of the compliment.

- Like her for more than her looks – (her interests, her personality, her hobbies or her passion).

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Podcast Episode #4: Qualify her (Does she measure up?) is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

Learn to Demonstrate to her that your Value is Higher than the average frustrated chump.

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Ladies and gentlemen welcome to the Seductive Instinct podcast.

Today I wanted to talk about; I’m going to talk about, Demonstrations of Higher Value (DHV for short).

Mystery should be given the credit for this because he is the one that first started to talk about it and even taught me what a DHV was. Demonstrations of Higher Value let me give you a better understanding of this thing.

The moment you open a girl, and we are assuming we are gaming nine’s and ten’s you know, then you quickly have to demonstrate to her that you have a higher value.

What does that really mean? There are five basic higher values that mystery talks about.

One of them is Pre-Selection which is other girls find you attractive other girls want to mate with you and she needs to see that. If other girls want to mate with you and want to get with you that means you must have higher value than the average man, you see?

That’s what a demonstration of higher value so you demonstrate higher value. Pre-Selection.

Leader of men; if you are leading a bunch of men then you must have value because are men going to follow with no value? Of course not.

Leader of men, Protector of loved ones, Healthy Emotions and a Successful Risk Taker.

It should be noted that’s not a risk taker but a Successful risk taker you don’t want a guy that bungee jumps without a bungee, right, the genetic line doesn’t continue like that. Successful risk taker is important to show that you are successful at taking the risk.

Now, let’s go over why this is important because she needs to know that if she is going to hook up with you or in a more primitive sense she is going to mate with you and by chance by God she gets pregnant, and we are talking about the deep genetic level whether she’s conscious of this or not it doesn’t really matter her body is going to go through the emotions because this is what’s happening with her, at a deep un-conscious level (body level) she wants to know should she get pregnant at the end of this mating ritual that the man who made her pregnant has higher value.

For example he is someone who has healthy emotions he won’t go kill the fucking baby or punch her in the head.

He can lead men that means he has resources of other men, that she can be protected, that he’s a successful risk taker all these things are important.She’s not going to come out with some deformed kid or some disease because other women have been with him he’s pre-selected.

The more demonstrations of a higher value that she sees those the more her attraction will start to come up for you it’s required.

For us demonstration of a higher value in a woman would consist of a woman with great tits, ass, hair, skin, lips, eyes, good bouncy movement and a high voice, you know those things demonstrate high value of a woman high Replication Value.

She is biologically designed to look for high value of Survival and that’s what turns her on just like it turns us on to see a woman with high demonstration of value.

That’s what you want to think about and sometimes guys are not even aware of it or they rely on direct approach or other type of bull shit that they do and that’s not the best thing to do.

The best thing to do is open the conversation neutrally so she doesn’t freak out doesn’t right away start thinking “Oh boy here we go” if she is a nine or a ten she is thinking that.

You get into demonstrating your value, now you could either even demonstrate your higher value before you open the conversation which is something that I like to do, she needs to see in the venue who you are. You know she is watching because you walk in you say “Hi” to the bouncers, and you smile, and you give hugs to these girls and those guys. This is a demonstration of a higher value already.

Neging her, if you don’t know what Neging is go pick up a book and read it, is also a demonstration of a higher value if it’s done correctly because you are telling her “look yeah I get it you are super-fine, super-hot but I am just not into you” which means I’m either a multi-millionaire I have so many bitches on me or whatever the fuck it is.

You are demonstrating higher value.

So demonstration of a higher value is a required step in her feeling attraction for you. For example if I say to you there’s a girl with no breast, flat like a guy breast, ass saggy, hair falling out, pimples on her face, kind of a deep voice, big shoulders, and I said “yeah would you hook up with her?” Fuck no! Is there something wrong with you? Ok good.

On the other hand if I went to a girl and I said “the guy is a very nice guy, he’s really polite, he is rich, sweet, blah blah blah… no girls really like him, he is out of whack with his emotions, guys don’t respect him, would you do anything with him hook up?” She would be like “no, what is wrong with you?” just like that nasty bitch that we were talking about.

That’s how she is designed, designed to see that, well we are designed to see the other and that’s where the game starts and that’s how the game is. You have to start thinking with if we are thinking about attraction not comfort there’s different phases.

If you are talking about attraction, attracting a woman making her think you are attractive or something intriguing she wants to be around, you have to demonstrate higher value to her in short its DHV.

The opposite of that is Demonstrating Lower Value or DLV and I will go over that in a different podcast so until then good luck to you, study hard, go out there and have the courage to go after what you want and may you never be the same again.

 

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Podcast Episode #3: Demonstration of Higher Value – DHV is a post from: Seductive Instinct Podcast by Arash Dibazar

Teaching you the correct way to open the set in an indirect way.

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Ok, let’s talk about the subject of opening and lets breakdown and understand what it is. First of all, you gotta understand that we are dealing with women that are nine’s and ten’s.

Meaning what? Meaning that they are in the magazines, they are in the movies, they are the models, they are the girls doing the shows, they are the strippers, they are the hired guys and we are not talking about the regular person.

If you are going to be opening the conversation, and opening means what? Just starting a conversation with one of these women, the first thing you have to recognize is that they go thru their day and they are constantly hit on. Like constantly and they know it, right? I have a lot of those girls in my life and that’s one of the subjects I like to talk to them about.

They know, they know when a guy is asking them at the gas station like “oh, do you know what time it is?” Or ”Is that car, does it drive nice?” They know what that means. They know when they are going to the groceries store and the cashier is like “How’s your day?” and they can tell “yeah dude you want to fuck me and that’s going thru your head.”

You can’t open a conversation with these women by communicating interest. The First rule about opening correctly is it has to be neutral, as neutral as possible. Taking into consideration that the fact that you approached her you are showing some interest. Ok, now having already done that you need to open the conversation in a very neutral manner and in a way that does not communicate to her that you are after her.

This is why opinion openers are really good. Because you are asking an opinion and another thing that can really help with an opener is the spontaneous effect of it. It can’t look like oh I just walked up to you to start the conversation and I’m saying this totally neutral thing, no because then it looks obvious that you were walking up with that predetermined idea. It’s in the way that you approach.

You are walking by you walk past them you turn around and over the shoulder you say “Oh hey let me get your opinion real quick I gotta get back to my friends. What do you think about blah blah blah..” It has to look spontaneous it has to look natural. Ok, so that’s part of the opener.

The Second part is in that you are not conveying interest you are just asking a question, some kind of question. Now, as you ask the question, your opener, it’s very important how your body language is. You definitely don’t want to be facing them square on in fact if you are out and some stranger approaches you square shoulders walking right up to you, you are going to start feeling like “Yo, dude get away from me.”

That has to be taken into consideration Ok? That’s why you open over the shoulder, you lean away and you should throw in a false time constraint (like “I gotta get back to my friends” or “hey I gotta get going but blah blah blah.”) Ok and this is important because otherwise, let’s say you are out with your friends and some stranger approaches you, you might feel like if I answer he might stick around.

You know what I mean? So it has to be a quick thing. You throw in the false time constraint, you make it spontaneous, and you ask some sort of neutral question. Your tonality is important like you can’t walk in and be like “HEY GUYS I GOTTA ASK YOU A QUICK QUESTION!” You can’t, Ok you are out. Who wants to talk to that Donald Duck and shit?

Your smile is very important in the opener. You have to convey that you are actually warm and friendly, you’re playful and having a great time and this is just part of the night. Like “Hey guys listen, I gotta get back to my friend and you guys seem like you got some style to you, well you know kind of…”

Whatever I’m just throwing that out right now but it’s very important you have a warm friendly vibe. The smile goes a long way, not a cheesy smile, a natural smile. So how do you do shit like that? That can be a whole subject in its self. Let’s give a hint or a clue; one is: You have to like people.

Sometimes people are afraid of other people and they still want to be a great Pick-Up artist. Like how the fuck are you going to a Social Dynamics guy if you are afraid of people?

Sorry, it ain’t gonna happen you know what I mean? You have to have a genuine interest in people, like when I’m out I’m
not thinking about how many phone numbers I’m gonna get, I know I’m gonna get phone numbers like without a doubt. But I know the phone numbers are going to be naturally part of the night because I’m going to meet a lot of cool people, and I’m friendly and they are friendly, and we are going to have something in common and something in our lives is going to make sense for us to contact each other later.

It’s not going to be because we want to fuck because again if you are approaching a nine or a ten like that has to be the furthest thing from your mind. It really should be if you want to be a really powerful Pick-Up artist I’m not saying act like it’s the furthest thing from your mind I’m saying you should literally have a different purpose in your approach. Maybe your purpose is to put out a good friendly vibe and see how good your communication skills are.

Maybe your purpose is to go out and meet people or maybe your purpose is to go out and work on your body language or see people’s body language, read people. All that is better than your purpose is to go out and get some pussy for the night or whatever. The second one makes you weaker plus they have some kind of radar for shit like that.

When we are talking about openers let’s review you have to have neutral opening and the natural, gotta make it look spontaneous, smile. Be warm and friendly, throw a false time constraint, body rock so you are not facing them completely and lean away do it over the shoulder.

Once the conversation opens, and this is where a lot of people get confused on, the purpose of the opener is simply to open the conversation. Once the person is now answering you its opened you gotta move from there to the next step. If you are following the Mystery Method which is highly recommended by me you should know everybody that studies game should know the Mystery Method because without it you will never as successful as you can be.

If you are following that method then you go from opening to demonstrating you have a higher value. Now, you have a very short amount of time, she answers you she says “Oh I think you should get a puppy instead of a cat”, “I think black nails are cool”, “That tattoos on guys are” whatever the fuck she says.

In that short amount of time you have to convey to her that you are different than everyone else in the club or the bar and that there’s something high value about you.

The way you speak, the way you smile, the way you dress, who you are around, what they have already seeing about you beforehand is all going to play into the equation here.

Let’s say you are going to open a set of people and there’s like a super, super, smoking hot girl in that group and everyone is trying to get at her and you see it and she knows it. It’s probably a good idea to open a some sets around her so she sees how you talk to other people, she sees how your socially calibrated, how you have social alignments, how you have healthy emotions, how you are just a cool guy. And that you just didn’t approach her, you’re talking to everybody, she’s just part of everybody.

The difference is that you are the only guy in the night that’s not actually hitting on her, which is refreshing, and is going to make her think “why is he not hitting on me?” If she is hot she is thinking that trust me. So those are some basics on openers.

The question that arises is different environments where you open people. You could open them in the bar, club or if you go to the mall like that’s something I do, I get a lot of girls phone numbers from the mall and the girls working there. Or the restaurants, that’s another activity that I am really good at as hired guns the girls that work at restaurants, the hotter girls. And is there a difference?

Well the only difference is in the volume that you use and the energy that you use. I’m not going to be in the restaurant acting like I am in the club that’s kind like off.

“HEY SUPPP HEHEHEEEE.” Goofy and I am not going to be in the bar and club acting like I am in the restaurant it’s too low energy.

But the same principles apply which is: Neutral, Smiling, over the shoulder all this shit and nothing were you are conveying interest, the energy is different.

 

The waitress walks up and talking to you friend and “Hi can I take your order?” you turn and you say “you know what? You can give me an opinion on something. He and I were talking about blah blah blah. Now, you as female you work here and I am sure you probably get hit on a lot, guys come in here first thing and …” You already conveyed that you know this that you are not kind of hitting on her because why would you say that? Blah blah blah, “What do you think about that?” and she’ll probably be thrown off for a second. You watch her she either gets into it and is like “Well I think blah blah blah” or she is kind of like almost weirded out I’ve seen that where she is all like “whoa why is he asking me that?” If that happens you just immediately cut the thread and “you know what no worries.”

Anyways yea and you get into a launch thing. But you continue the conversation with your partner. Now question is there, she comes back again she needs to see that your laughing having a good time, you’re not two people sitting at the table eating but your actually on the phone the whole time with other people, Text-ting, you’re having an interesting conversation. She needs to over here all these things, so that’s the restaurants.

The mall is similar you got to understand these girls are doing their jobs so a lot of times they are aware of a managers and cameras watching them too. That’s different than a club and at the club you have to have a lot more energy and they are out to meet people most of the time. A girl could be like “I am not out to meet people” Yes she is, OK? Yes she is bottom line. That’s what you have to believe ok? If she didn’t want to meet people she wouldn’t be out. Or “I am out just want to hang out with my girlfriends.” Bitch you can be home hanging out with your girlfriends K? You can fucking go somewhere else don’t fucking come all dressed up to the club and shit. You’re trying to meet somebody. “I have a man” Yea yea whatever.

Anyways that’s the difference is in the energy but the same rules apply, neutral, warm, friendly. Once it opens you go into a DHV Demonstrating Higher Value and just conveyed who you are to her, that you are different.

One thing you have to keep in mind: If you are dealing with a waitress or a mall employee as quickly as you can you have to convey to her that you are not just a customer. Because she is in a customer mode you know what I mean? Let’s say you’re getting a massage, I know guys that are trying to pick up trying pick up masseuses and try to get their little happy ending and shit. She has to know right away that she is that you’re not just a customer. How you do that is the art that we can get into in another time.

But if she sees you as a customer she is going to have a hard time giving you a phone number but if she sees you not as just a customer than the chances of you and her talking later is going to be much higher. Those are something’s to keep in mind in regards to opening different venues.

If it’s loud you got to be louder and opening your energy is really important. I know mystery talks about this: you have to come in as the same energy as the person has or slightly higher. If you go too high you sound gay. If you go to low they are going to blow you up because you’re sucking their energy. Who the fuck wants to have somebody around who is going to make ‘em feel like shit?

Ok, keep in mind always at the end of the final analysis you are there to give value to people. To make them feel better good about you presence if you can keep that in mind you’re going to be a lot more successful.

Ok, those are some Ideas for opening; you should try them out and see what it is like.

It should make you a 100 times more successful, If you have any questions then email!

Ok, and I’ll handle your questions from your next one. Alright till then Peace, Peace, Peace and I hope you get some.

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In this podcast I’m going to give you a little history of how I got started in the game and what my particular skills are that I’m bringing to the game and why the game you know: what’s up!

I think the first thing should be understood is as guys we all have the basic instincts to attract the very beautiful female that we look at. I remember: let me give you a little background here I was born in Iran and I left my country when I was six years old do to the government change so my family wanted to get away at the time from the civil war.

Between the age of six and eleven I lived in London, Syria, Turkey, Kuwait, Nebraska and then I moved to California when I was eleven.

So it was interesting because I was moving at such young age, so many different times. I had to learn how to deal with so many different people from different cultures. I didn’t understand it, it was like culture shock. Coming from my culture I was considered cool in my country but uncool in the United States culture.

I remember clearly coming to United States at eleven years old and before coming here I was the kid that was invited to all the parties in school and everybody wanted to be around me and then I come here (USA) and I’m immediately labeled as a nerd.

I was a skinny kid with big glasses and giant head, didn’t speak English. Of course I wanted to be cool but I dressed completely off because it’s one thing if you watch the karate kid movie with Will Smith’s Son and he goes to China, well that was like my story.

So naturally I got beat up and picked on and the white girl was like the new thing for me because I’ve been all around the world but the white girl was like the Prize because here they were with white skin and soft!

Oh my god I just love the white girl.

Of course they wouldn’t be looking at me because I was this burned little Persian guy with giant a head and glasses, couldn’t speak, accent, messed up haircut, but that’s what I wanted.

I remember watching these girls and just trying to figure a way to get with them. Well naturally I got beat up in school a lot and I ended up doing Martial Arts when at eleven after I got beat up very bad.

For me Martial Arts was survival, going to school and get beat up just like the movies, get shoved in the locker, thrown in the garbage, get fucking jumped in the playground playing basketball.

So I would go to Martial Arts and I would stay there five to six hours, I would do my class and stick around watch the instructors and imagine myself being strong and tough and the next day I’d be in school fighting again. That’s how I got good at Martial Arts because my life depended on it and I got better and better.

It’s interesting the way I got started in game was I was doing Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and a guy showed up and he was like

“Oh my god you have to read this book it’s called The Game.”

I was like “Dude.” It was this Hawaiian guy and I was like “I’m not interested in basketball” He said “the guy reminds me so much of you in the book.” I was like “yea, yea whatever.”

Three or four months later the guy comes back and says “I just finished the book, you have to read the book” I said “Hey man I’m not interested in basketball anymore” He said “Basketball?

It’s about getting chicks!”

I was like “Really?” He is all like “yea you have got to read it.” At the time the VH1 Pick-up Artist was airing on TV and I remember flipping through the channel’s and watching Mystery and saying to myself “dude that guy is a joke, I can probably get more girls than him.”

I had been doing well with girls about this time because I had achieved some status in Martial Arts, I was a champion, I had a good body, I was really bold, and I could approach any woman. There was really no skill there, I would just approach and tell them and say Listen I think you’re gorgeous and your hot blah blah blah. Say all kinds of like chumpy activity but you know every once in a while some girl would catch and she would be hot because I wouldn’t approach ugly girls.

So any ways long story short, one Sunday morning I’m watching TV and stretching, I flipped through and I catch the Pick-Up Artist and I was about to flip and I was like “no let me see.” Mystery was talking and he said this thing about a woman earning your attention and I just listened, I remember being in the splits watching:

I was like that’s kind of cool you make sense if you pass your goofy look you make sense.

That night I go to Hooters with my friend and I’ve been thinking about this idea so I was talking to my friend and telling him the idea and the waitress comes up and she goes “Hi can i take your order?” I just turned to her just casually and I said “You know what; you’re going to have to earn that.”

And I turned back and she started just like busting up laughing, and I turned back and she goes like “my name is” I said “Hold on your going to have to earn my attention.” So she is laughing and I’m looking at my friend like what the fuck is this shit because normally I’ll be all flirtatious and shit by the beginning.

So by the end of the night I had made a game out of everything she said like, ridiculously anything she said, I would be like “you have to earn that.” But I had three waitresses around my table laughing, joking and I was like this is cool. So we leave, the next morning I walk to Barnes and Nobles near my house I go to check out the book called “GAME” and I pick it up and I read the first few pages and I’m hooked, I buy that book, can’t put it down three days later I’m done with it.

So I start looking up all kinds of stuff, I started watching all the Pick Up artist videos, I go buy Mystery’s books and I remember when I first read the first page on Mystery’s book I told my girlfriend “ Hey, I want to meet this guy! I want to be his best student and I want to party with him.”

Six months later mystery was doing a boot camp or book signing in San Francisco and I end up going over there to meet him just to see him live and say hey what’s up you know.

Long story short I had a launch with him and he accepted it me as a student and I started studying with him and he started telling me what to read and what to do and shit like that and I was a good student, I loved it.

At some point Mystery says you have got to meet Matador so again I set something up and I go study with Matador and that just blew my mind. I got to see things that really are just preserved for rock stars and at that moment I knew.

Matador turns to me and says “listen you have everything you need to create a rock star’s life style.” He said “I guarantee there’s going to be a time when you won’t have enough time in your life for the different women in your life” and he said “just be ready for that” Of course as a guy who doesn’t want that right?

I started to go hard at work and I studied with Matador a lot and we became really close friends and I became his wing. Sure enough you know let’s move to present time and here I am living the life that I only dreamed of and it continuous to get better, so something that is very important in this background is that growing up i have met a very powerful man I guess there is no other word and his name was Manu Tupou.

He was literally the prince of Fiji, the Island Fiji. He was the Prince of Fiji but he was also a broad way actor and a star and you can look up his name Manu Tupou.

He had been my mentor and I studied with extensively for a year here, theater, but Manu had a way of teaching life and the mind, so he got me started on studying the mind and that was sixteen or seventeen years ago. I was obsessed with reading about the mind and studying stuff. I read everything I got my hands on hypnosis, dianetics, NLP and anything that had to do with mind and I had read and seen everything, still do.

So that was in background too plus the Martial Arts discipline, that combined with that plus understanding game, The structure that Mystery thought me and seen Matador someone who is able to display it at such a high level put it all together and that’s what I’ve been developing as game.

Now I live a pretty amazing life and I teach guys but it’s different because in my journey I also got to study with one of top street hypnotist in the world his name is Vince Lynch from the Head Hacking Crew.

I got to see what my skills can do in street Hypnosis, so the style of game that I teach is a Life Style, It’s understanding the mind, it’s understanding game and it’s having the discipline and the focus of like a martial arts or a Zen master, you put it all together and you get this fascinating character that can do these amazing things with women and life.

It’s not all about women it’s a Life Style. You can apply to business, you can apply to men, I mean you don’t have to be gay but you can, social circles and things like that.

One of the things that I have seen and being in game is that guys go to boot camps and buy tons of lectures and do ‘One on Ones’ and they still don’t get good. It’s interesting because one of the requirements that you have is that you have to be studying from a person who is going through the troubles you’ve been through.

Like I know some guys that would teach game and they’re good at getting girls, but they’ve always been good at getting girls like how the fuck is that guys going to teach some little Indian engineer nerd how to become ALPHA.

I was the fucking little nerd you know what I mean I was the little guy who everybody picked on, I had to evolve, I learned how to fight, I learned about the mind, I learned about the women, Put it all together BOOM.

So a lot of times they face a teacher who is kind like just doesn’t get what it means to be nervous and approach somebody or doesn’t get what it’s like to walk in to a place and know all the right things to say but be frozen solid.

I know what that’s like. Or guys like to have a lot of theory and I think one of the funniest things I ever saw was in one of these camps what do you called Pick-Up camps or whatever, It was break time and I heard these guys down on the table talking and they were like, “oh you know what you need to do and what you need to do and I would have negged her” and I was looking at them said I guarantee you this fool and has not kissed a girl in the last six months but he has all kinds of advice.

It’s like dude I come from a world of fighting of Martial Arts no one is going to listen to a dude who is getting his ass kicked everyday no matter what belt he wears no matter what he looks like. The first requirement is can you do it yourself?

Right? And that’s the problem, is that there’s a bunch of blind people leading the bunch of blind people and it seems like a lot of times people are interested in talking about it more than doing it. Of course it’s to be like oh yea I train Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and then you and you watch UFC with your friends “OH TRIANGLE HIM!!! I WOULD HAVE JUST PUNCHED HIM!!!” Nah dude you wouldn’t have OK, because it’s different being in the ring.

So a lot of times people just want to say “Oh I do martial arts and Jujitsu.” No, no that’s one thing it is another thing getting in the ring right? Same thing with pick up, lot of guys want to be like “you know I studied this that and I know so and so and I know so and so” and “I say Shut the fuck up man!”

Look what’s your statistics? What have you done? Who have you been with? What’s your life look like? What is your life look like, you know what I mean?

Are you just learning game so you can just fucking get that one girl that is always rejecting you? Or are you learning game to like be able to interact with human beings because it’s social dynamics really.

Like I know guys that know all sorts of shit about girls but no guy will respect them, no guy will respect them. You know what I mean it’s like I just thought about one of my previous student, ex-students, tell you all about girls’ right? But in the circle of guys he is a little bitch, but they missed that’s actually part of game.

A nine or a ten, if you’re going to be with a ten, if you’re going to be with a girl that is in the magazines, the girl that is in the show, that’s my girl, that’s my girlfriend, that’s my girls and the girls that are around me.

One thing you have to have is you have to have respect of the fucking guys, So you can just know all about girls and walk up to a group of guys and you’re a chump Right?

So that’s one the big mistakes people make and another mistake people make is that they get a bunch of information and they don’t get good at anything. “Oh yeah I’ve listened to Ross Jeffrey’s and I watch Mystery, blah blah blah blah.”

Can you demonstrate anything? “Oh I’m just kind of like still working on it.”  Nah dude you don’t know shit, ok? And the problem is that they have all this information but no application; it’s like the school mentality right? Let’s memorize everything for the quiz and be able to spit it back, but let’s not be able to do anything about it.

That’s what they do, “Oh yea this is how you neg, how you blah blah” but they can’t apply this shit. It’s like when you ever go to a surgeon, who is like “I passed with all A’s and shit”, so you like “how many brain surgeries have you done? Oh I haven’t really but i am!!!” No, dude dont touch my brain!

It’s the same thing! it’s a technical subjects, if you are going to approach a beautiful women, there is way to approach, there is way to deal with them, there is a way to fucking have them in your life, there is way to do that and if you can’t do it, doesn’t matter what you know you have to actually apply this shit.

So the application in life is missing and that’s a big deal.

Another thing these pickup artists fall into today’s world is they like to like clown on each other and talk bad. They get on-line “Oh, wow.. “ You know what dude? It’s supposed to be a brotherhood supposed to be safe, that’s how it is with my students.

You feel safe, you have to be able to make your mistakes, and you have to know what your vulnerabilities are. It’s not gay. It’s like any artist needs to have a safe place to explore.

And it’s called a Pick-up Artist, there is artistry involved.

So a lot of times they feel like they have to prove themselves, before they are even at the point. Or I have people come through like well “I just want to see how you do” Listen bitch, my life is perfect when it comes to women, my girls wouldn’t even talk to you. I don’t need to prove my self-fool.

You need to prove yourself, you are here to learn. So they are more interested in proving whether their teacher is good enough, instead of learning, it’s like if I had gone to Mystery and Matador and be like “Well, I want to see how good you are.” Dude! It’s irrelevant, I’m there to learn, and I’m there to see what the fuck they have to offer.

So a lot of times their cup is full before they get in, it is and old ZEN teaching, you know what I mean? The guy goes to the master and he is all like I want you teach me wisdom in stuff and the master sits him down for some tea and says “Let’s have some tea first.”

(Master) starts pouring the tea and the cup gets completely full keeps pouring, pouring, pouring, and the student is like “stop! stop! it’s full” and he keeps pouring and he goes “STOP!” and the master stops and he says “you see, just like this cup, your full of knowledge so you have to empty your cup before I can pour anything in.

So that’s one of the things they go to teachers already with their cup full “Oh I already read that, I’ve seen this!” Whatever dude! Empty your cup first before you study with me, come with an open mind, because I’m going to change your whole fucking life, I guarantee you if you study with me your life is going to change.

I know game I’m fucking incredible at it, I’m really really good, anybody who has seen me knows I’ll blow their mind. I’ll show them shit they’ve never seen before and I can do it consistently, but I’m not a dancing clown, you know what I mean, I mean not to fucking going to do a circus act for people, just be around.

Be a student you’ll see it all. So when it comes down to it you have got to ask yourself this honest question: Do you really want to get good? And if you do, how good? And are you willing to pay the price? Money, Time, Energy, are you willing to fail and get up and start again?

Because that’s one of the first listen’s you learn in martial arts, you’re going to get beat up, you have to show up again and you’re going to get beat up, and you’re going to show up again and months after months, year after year you’re going to get beat up and you’re going to show up again.

But that’s the only way you get it, anytime you quit you will never learn it. So study, find qualified teachers to learn from, enjoy the process that’s a big part of it. You have to like what you are doing and you have to have a passion for it and I’ll guarantee you success at the end of that line.

You have to be able to go thru it. Anyways, this was fun stay tuned for next week for the next podcast and it will be some very valuable information in that also.

Alright, till next time, I hope you get some.

 

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